Decide whether you actually want to have anal sex and prepare
When it comes to any sort of sex or experiments in the bedroom, the main thing is consent. You shouldn’t feel forced to do anything you’re not comfortable with. Sure, it’s always a good idea to try something at least once before deciding whether you like it or not, but if you’re 100% against having anal sex but your man insists on it, you should not give up your boundaries. And if you try anal sex once and hate it, there are plenty of other things you can do in the bedroom that both you and your partner can enjoy.
If you do decide to have anal sex, you need to make sure that you and your partner have good communication. You should feel comfortable telling him to slow down, stop moving or pull out and he should know that you’re the one who will be in control of things at least for the first few times you have anal sex. Otherwise, the experience will almost certainly be painful and not fun at all.
Finally, the last step of preparing for anal sex is lube - you should always use high-quality silicone-based lube when having anal sex. Lube that’s made specifically for anal sex is preferred.
Start having anal sex with a lengthy foreplay
Most women believe that having anal sex is painful but did you know that it doesn’t have to hurt? The reason why a lot of women find anal sex painful is because their anal sphincter, which is a ring muscle located at the entrance to your anus, is tightly flexed during anal sex, causing a great deal of pain. It can take a long time for you to relax this muscle and you can’t really do it voluntarily. Therefore, long foreplay is an absolute must before you have anal sex! You should start by inserting a lubed finger into your anus or having your partner insert his finger if you feel comfortable enough. Insert the finger very slowly, stopping as soon as it starts to feel uncomfortable and waiting for your sphincter to relax. Once you’re relaxed, keep moving the finger in and out slowly until you no longer feel uncomfortable, then proceed by adding another finger.
The easiest way to have anal sex for the first time
Once you feel like you’re ready to have your partner enter you with his penis, have him put on a condom, thoroughly lube up his penis and lie down on his back, as this is the most comfortable position if you’re not used to having anal sex. This way you’ll be able to have full control over penetration depth and speed, your partner should lie absolutely still without thrusting. Once the lube has been applied and both of you are in position, you can start slowly lowering yourself onto his penis making sure to stop and wait until you can relax every time you feel pain. When you get all the way down on his dick, you can start slowly moving back up. Once you feel comfortable moving up and down yourself, ask your man to slowly start thrusting in and out of you. That’s it!