Wax play involves dripping candle wax onto your partner (or yourself) in a sexy way. And while most wax play is considered a part of BDSM
, it doesn’t always have to be and you can def use it for spicing up sex or as a part of foreplay. Reminder- if you play with the fire you can get burn literally in this case. here are some tips and tricks to help you get started:
Choose a safe area to play in—far away from anything flammable.
Don’t have lots of easily flammable things like tissues, drapes, or hair products nearby. You should also keep an eye out for lingerie thrown around in the heat of the moment, bed sheets, and curtains, its easy to get caught in the moment but we don’t want to burn your entire place.
Make sure you’re using special, body-safe wax candles.
When you select the candle, make sure to read ingredients. Avoid candles made of beeswax. Beeswax melts at around 63 °C (145 °F). DO NOT use these candles for wax play, it can cause serious burns and blistering. These usually come in the form of tea lights or safety candles. Instead, focus on candles that are specifically made for the body, like those made of shea butter, soy, or, depending on your pain tolerance, paraffin.
Let the candle burn for around 20 to 30 minutes
Before you start dripping wax all over yourself or a partner, you need to make sure it's the right temperature. Light the wick, then let the wax drip onto your forearm from six inches above. The greater the distance between the candle and your body, the less of an intense sensation; the wax won't be as hot by the time it reaches your skin. The less distance, the more intense the sensation.
Avoid dripping the wax on sensitive areas.
As you explore the sensation of the wax, keep it away from your face, hair and genitals. It’s difficult to get wax out of hair (or hairy regions of the body), and it can burn sensitive areas. Legs and arms are easy to reach places where you can apply wax on yourself or a partner. Places like the stomach and thighs can be more sensitive, so proceed with caution. when waxing, Moreover, if you have any piercings or fresh tattoos, keep your wax dripping away from these areas. avoid the sensitive genital area, as well as your face, or any open wounds on your body.
Pick up a safe word
For the safest mutual experience, you can also come up with a safe word, to help avoid excessive pain or any consent misunderstandings.In BDSM, a safe word is a code word, used by a person to communicate their physical or emotional state, typically when crossing, a physical, emotional, or moral boundary.
Control any splash back by changing the height at which you pour.
Check-in with your partner and see if they want less heat (move the candle further away, this way, the wax has more time to cool before contact) or more (move the candle closer). Avoid getting closer than six inches away from the skin unless you’re okay with the risk of burns.