How to get invited to a sex party?
If you’re new to the kinky scene in your city or town, it may not be hard to find a sex party but it can be very hard to get invited to one. After all, people come to sex parties to relax and let their true, kinky selves out without the risk of being judged, misunderstood or ever hurt either physically or emotionally. Sex parties require a lot of trust and acceptance, which is why it can take some time to find a sex party if you’re new to the community.
One of the best ways to get invited to a sex party is to go to a few munches - these are events where people from BDSM, swinger or fetish communities meet up at a coffee shop or restaurant simply to chat and hang out. These events don’t have anything to do with sex but they are a great chance to meet people in the sex community you’re interested in, show them you’re not a weirdo and you can be trusted. After a few munches it’s very likely you’ll get an invitation to your first sex party! You can easily find local munches on forums like FetLife or similar online communities. There are also some apps where you can meet people who are into different kinks, swinging, etc.
Sex party rules and tips for attending
Before you decide to go to any sex party or kinky event, it’s important to do your research, especially if you don’t know anyone else at the party well. Find out as much as you can about the event - what the rules are, what is expected to happen, etc. You can even reach out and talk to the organizer of the party directly. Once you know all the details, decide if the party is for you and if it is, make sure to follow all the rules, the dress code, etc.
If you’re going to a sex party, your grooming rituals should be the same as if you were going to an important first date. Waxing, shaving, taking a shower, brushing your teeth, putting on deodorant and perfume and making sure your clothes and underwear are in pristine condition is extremely important if you want to get any action at the party. Similarly, getting drunk at a sex party is considered to be very bad form, so you should never have more than one or two drinks.
Another common sex party rule is not to touch anything that belongs to another person without asking for permission first. If you see a toy you’re interested in - ask before you pick it up.
Frequently asked questions about sex parties
Do you have to have sex at a kinky party?
No, you can do whatever you’re comfortable with. If you just want to watch other people - go for it, you don’t have to have sex at a sex party.
Are there safe words at sex parties?
While usually there aren’t any specific safe worlds at sex parties, you should always come up with one and tell it to your partner or partners at sex parties. If something suddenly goes wrong, you can also use the word “red”, as it’s a commonly accepted safe word in the BDSM community.
Do I have to ask for consent at a sex party?
Absolutely, you should always ask your partner or partners for consent before doing anything, but this is especially true at sex parties.