What is a ruined orgasm?
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re masturbating or having sex with your partner and feeling the climax approaching and then just as you begin to orgasm, something happens that interrupts your sensations and your orgasm is gone just like that? If so, you’ve experienced a ruined orgasm.
Ruined orgasms in a BDSM relationship
A ruined orgasm is something most people try to avoid, as a big reason why most people have sex or masturbate is to experience pleasure and the feeling of sexual relief that comes with an orgasm. But did you know that some people actually actively seek out ruined orgasms and incorporate them into their sex lives? It turns out, ruined orgasms are a big part of many dominant/submissive relationships.
Why do some people enjoy ruined orgasms?
In BDSM relationships, the dominant partner often controls when and how the submissive can receive sexual pleasure, it’s also common for the dom to put limits on when the sub can and can’t have sex, masturbate and have an orgasm. The reasons why doms and subs enjoy ruining orgasms or experiencing a ruined orgasm can vary, but it often has to do with the exchange of power between the two partners. Some doms really enjoy the feeling of power that comes with ruining their sub’s orgasm, while subs can like having their orgasms ruined because it makes future orgasms more pleasurable or desired.
Frequently asked questions about ruined orgasms
Can I have a ruined orgasm alone?
Achieving a ruined orgasm is possible both alone or with a partner.
How to have a ruined orgasm?
Ruining an orgasm is actually quite simple - all you need to do is distract your partner or get distracted yourself just as you or your partner are beginning to orgasm. You may, however, have to try it a few times to pinpoint the exact time and type of stimulation you need to ruin an orgasm.
Should I ruin my partner’s orgasm on purpose?
If you’re in a dominant/submissive relationship and ruining an orgasm is something both of you would like to try and have agreed to, then you can absolutely ruin your partner’s orgasm or ask them to ruin yours. Otherwise, it’s best to talk it over with your partner before taking any action, as he or she may get pretty upset if you deprive them of a pleasurable sexual release on purpose.