Is it normal to like rough sex?
Everyone likes different things in the bedroom - some people are into romantic, sensual lovemaking with their partner. Others love to dominate or be dominated in the bedroom. The third group of people likes to have slow, passionate sex some days and then fuck each other like animals the next. It’s important to know that there’s no right way to have sex as long as you’re being safe - rough, animalistic sex is just as normal as slow and romantic lovemaking. No matter which group you and your partner fall into, this guide has plenty of ideas for rough sex that you can try.
Things to talk about before having rough sex
Everyone’s fantasies and ideas of hardcore sex are different so it’s crucial that you and your partner think about what you’d like to try before engaging in rough sex and make a list of things that you would like to do and things that you’re not comfortable with and discuss these things with each other.
It’s also a good idea to come up with a safeword or gesture that you and your partner can use to let each other know to stop because it’s too much.
Dominate each other for hardcore sex
One of the easiest ways to have rough sex is simply for one partner to dominate the other. This works especially well if it’s usually your partner who initiates sex and takes lead but you decide to turn the tables and aggressively take what you want from your partner to get complete satisfaction.
Add pain for better hardcore sex
While you probably don’t normally scratch, bite or hit your partner while having sex, it can be incredibly hot to add a little pain to the mix when you’re having rough sex. You can try scratching your partner’s back or thighs with your nails, biting his or her neck and shoulders or simply spanking your lover! It’s important to stay away from important organs when slapping or punching your partner - stick to the legs or butt instead. You can use a whole bunch of items to spank your partner including but not limited to:
- Your hand
- Rolled up magazine
- A dildo or your penis
- Sit on your man’s face
If you want to initiate rough sex, there’s no better way to do it than to push your partner onto a bed, pin him down and hit on his face. This will be especially hot for you if you enjoy being dominant and for your man if he likes to be submissive or if he enjoys eating you out.
Gagging - one of the top rough sex techniques
Another fun and easy thing to do to make your sex kinkier is to gag your partner. You can buy a ball gag or another toy at a sex shop specifically for this purpose or you can simply use a scarf or even a pair of panties that you have on hand to do this.
Try using clams as the ultimate rough sex accessory
If you or your partner enjoy a little pain in sex and like trying new toys, why not buy a pair of clamps? Most clamps are used on nipples and can provide a huge amount of stimulation alone during foreplay, during masturbation or even during rough sex. And keep in mind that sometimes ripping off nipple clamps feel a lot more intense than just having them on your nipples or genitals.